I went through the various discussions and appreciate the various nuances of friends with benefits.
However, I can empathize with the TS because I have been through it myself. And STILL AM. I am a machoman. But the rules of the game is very simple. How liberated are we prior to and during the relationship?
Friends with benefits abound here in the city. But they are very discrete. It is safe (health wise and reputation wise) and mature. Are we there to quel boredom? Are we together to dichotomize what ails humanity? Are we together just because we somehow just get together fine? Are we there for release some pent up emotional feelings which we just can not expound with regular guys? And or for the mutual appreciation of each other as persons? Nota bene. We treat each other as a person with emotions and intelligence; and we are together because our companionship somehow enhances or mutually complements both of us.
I am a sportsman. I love the outdoors. I go on long trips with my friends and enjoy each other's company. I go out of town trips. Back to nature kind of trips. I got the wheels and werewithals to travel far and wide. Whatever resulting activities that may bear out from it is our mutual bonus.
Please don't get me wrong. I do not go out with just any casual acquaintances. She should be somebody interesting and worth my time to spend with. We can have dinner, sip wine, go clubbing or disco dancing, listen of good music in hotel lobbies..... or just chat the night away in some hills in the city. What is of utmost importance is the company must be interesting and I must also be interesting to her to be worth her while.
And lastly and it can not be over emphasized, this relationship must be only for the matured and the emotionally stable.
Just my 2 cents worth.....
sus kining friends with benefits lami kayo sa sinugdanan, ang katapusan ani samot ka exciting kun unsay padulngan. nakauyon ba o ang ex wala mahilabwan....
Like I always say, FWBs are not for the weak heart and for those who believe in fairy tales too much.
It will only scar you for a lifetime
However this works best with peeps who are not banking on physical/sexual trysts as emotional attachment to the person. It's just two mature peeps who want to have fun together and can go their separate ways once they jump out of bed
"People who love to eat are always the BEST people."
Julia Child
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