mumatter ninyo ang history sa inyong uyab?

[vailixi]

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let me share my short love story and the heartaches it gave me...hehe

had a friend before na gbuwagan ug kalit sa iyang uyab and she really was devastated ato....but before i really liked her gyud...till atong time na sad siya, i was there for her. then we became closer and eventually we've come to a realization na we both have feelings for each other....time comes na nagsulti nako sa iyang na feel and she told me if i can wait till she graduates and so I told her that im willing to wait...

when we're together,i really see to it that i make her feel special in many ways....i was so protective sa iya, had a lot of girlfriends before pud but the way i treated her was very different...i know she was hurt sa iyang ex before so i make sure to make her feel loved everytime na kuyog mi...and naningkamot ko na dili gyud ko makabuhat ug sayup na mkapasakit sa iyang heart.

i loved her more each day that we were together kai she accepted me as I am such as on the way sa akong panamit,yagit raman gud ko na bsan mag ayala kai shorts tsinelas ug tshirt ra ko...hilig kog frisbee nasports na mag ligid2x sa lapok2x, if mag kaon mi ug dinner kai bbq, larang, lansiao ra among ikaon pero atleast we were happy and shes the humblest and most down to earth na girl ako nailhan considering that she came from a well off family...she loved me for what i am....

we even planned for next yr. on ways for me to include her sa ako application pa immigrant sa gwas...we planned for a marriage bsan sa papers lang aron madala nako siya..kai dili ko gnahan na ako muuna gawas then siya mabilin...by the way my last gf was in US and believe me long distance relationship seldom works...if it did work well then lucky couple...hehe

we were very comfortable to each other....im a type of a guy man unta before na insensitive and dili ko muexpress sa akong na feel ug maayu...but with her, i changed...before bsan naa ko uyab kai mkig meet ghpon ug girls pra magpa cute2x and all..but with her im contented, you can say that im really inlove with her i make her feel that each day is gonna be more special than it was yesterday...

untill one day, she heard a rumor bout my past...its like this, a year ago my boss received a complaint letter involving me with an act in which I didn't commit. it was very degrading and involves mistreating other peoples rights.... in my work i make a lot of enemies....and despite my boss receiving the letter, he didn't find it serious because of the lack of evidence to justify the complaint.....I myself know that my conscience is clean that i didn't know such thing....

after she knew all that, she asked me if its true....i told her the truth as i always had, that my boss really did receive a complaint letter but didn't find it serious since there is no evidence and my boss knows that i can't do such thing...

but despite my effort to tell her that the letter is not true and it was just made just to stain my reputation.....she said that she was not being judgemental but things like the one i'm involved matters to her, since its already included daw as my background...she said sad nga nalain siya and wala siya ganahi adto....she told me sad na istop na namo ang among relationship kung unsa naa namo...simply kana ra gyud ang words...nothing more nothing less....she didn't even gave me a chance to defend myself...she just asked if tnuod bato or dili...didn't take hours of talk, think 5 mins.

bsan daghan nako uyab and mgabreak ups none can compare sa akong sakit nabati ani nya karon..kai sa iya ra gyud ko nasakitan ug maayu to the poin t na wa ko khbao sa akong buhaton kai lage 1st time pako na sakitan ug na inlove ug maayu.....kai sa tanan siya man gud ako gpinalangga ug maayu..

but i think na karma ra ni ako tungod sa akong gpangbuhat before...this event made me realize pud na probably before mag change ang tawo need pa gyud ipasakitan ug balos...ayha pa muchange na gyud....haitz

fellow istoryans, do youthink na justifiable ang iyang decision na stop na mi tungod lang sa akong background nga na involved ato na complaint bsan dili to tinuod and pandaot ra to sa ako....

and do you think kung sa inyo mumatter ninyo ang past sa inyong gmahal karon?

[Klave]

Actually, you haven't told us exactly what the rumor was or what you did in the past.
The following lines below are what I found dangerous:
* mumatter ninyo ang history sa inyong uyab? (title)
* but with her, i changed...before bsan naa ko uyab kai mkig meet ghpon ug girls pra magpa cute2x and all
* she heard a rumor bout my past
* in my work i make a lot of enemies
* but i think na karma ra ni ako tungod sa akong gpangbuhat before
* considering that she came from a well known family not only sa visayas but i think sa whole philippines...she loved me for what i am

So karma has come to haunt you, otherwise you have to think what kind of position your ex was in.
Rumors though not true for the exact situation, tilt the angle a bit, they become the truth.
Plus, the rumors don't really matter, it is the implications that lies behind the rumors.
She found the implications dangerous for her.
You have to think of this clearly, women are usually for the relationship first.
The implications I am talking about made her dump you in 5 minutes.

So I can't really blame her for what happened, she thought things out and made the decision.

To answer your question, the past matters because it is a part of you.
If you think you can easily neglect someone's past is like neglecting a part of their personality.

[sui.caedere]

if such a history becomes part of the person, yes mu matter.

how can u be unfairly selective as to choose only those history the you would like to accept and reject some?

[vailixi]

i would consider all your ideas but one:

Rumors though not true for the exact situation, tilt the angle a bit, they become the truth.

- no matter how much you tilt the angle...the thing is it didn't actually happen nor nothing similar happened...

bout the rumor, i need to protect myself from it...it she of all people believed i could do such thing.how much more those people reading this post...the internet is full of haters...I have a lot of friends here in istorya that knows me in real life...

i was gonna tell her if only she asked...I haven't told her bout the rumors i was included before because its not real and I completely have forgotten it and not to mention even my boss ignored it..

[vailixi]

if such a history becomes part of the person, yes mu matter.

how can u be unfairly selective as to choose only those history the you would like to accept and reject some?

but what if you were linked to something you haven't done before...but rumors have already spread and people thinks you were in it....that's what happened to me..

[bahiista]

bai here's what i believe and my personal stand when it comes to loving someone.

What ever event in history she was involved as long as she was seriously sorry about, as long as it "doesn't run in the blood" thing, it wont matter to me. Knowing who she was in the past is important for partners, but loving her today and discovering her future plans is far more important and exciting than her past. Every day the decision to love her again must be decided in spite and despite of who she is, of the risks, of failures. The beauty of loving someone is not perfect. It has its curves of pain and joy but it brings you satisfaction.

I believe that in every person there's this "love" for someone so big that it will overwhelm everything that comes in it's way no matter what that is. A "love" so strong that it will not make you blind but rather accept things and truth about a person. A "love that is willing to give that to receive.

As i read your story, i saw that "love" in you for her, but i haven't seen that in her for in a matter of time love will sometimes fade.

[bahiista]

double posting...sowweeee

[Klave]

i would consider all your ideas but one:

Rumors though not true for the exact situation, tilt the angle a bit, they become the truth.

- no matter how much you tilt the angle...the thing is it didn't actually happen nor nothing similar happened...

bout the rumor, i need to protect myself from it...it she of all people believed i could do such thing.how much more those people reading this post...the internet is full of haters...I have a lot of friends here in istorya that knows me in real life...

i was gonna tell her if only she asked...I haven't told her bout the rumors i was included before because its not real and I completely have forgotten it and not to mention even my boss ignored it..

When I say tilt the angle a bit.

Example.
Rumor is you have molested an officemate.

Tilt the angle a bit.
Some people find you fresh.

Tilt the angle a bit.
You are very friendly.

Tilt the angle a bit.
You officemates are flirting on you.

Tilt the angle a bit.
...

Imagination can give limitless amouts of possibilities.

Otherwise, you have to think about the intention of that rumor, was it for fun? was it ill-intent?

Then you would think.. why would some people hate you that much?

I know I am straying off your actual concern, but rumors can really stir everything up.
Next thing you'll know, everything blows up on your face.
And then here we are...asking if our past should really matter to the one we love...

[cuteboy_kahoy]

i feel you bro..tsk2x what matter is you change from a kind of person that she don't like to a person that she can hold on...kaapan lang dali ra sad sya mo toO...just pray lang jud for guidance...

[spike412]

tingali, she doesn't love you enough to even want to know you (your past). samot na sa imo na gihimo ra niyang "rebound guy" (sorry to say the word)... nahimo na lang excuse for her to let go of you. It's just my opinion and I could be wrong.