Do you think I'm a bad Mother for my kids?

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

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you really wouldn't say it emow if you are in my shoes. there is a thin borderline between too much difficulties and dying. i just wouldn't like my kids to be experiencing that very sad scenario. i don't want my kids to experience again the time that i have to only eat some bread for the whole day when infact i am pregnant because my ex-husband did not gave me any money. i don't like to put them put in that situation. if my husband is irresponsable it doesn't mean his family are? right? you are only saying things not trying to balance what it could have been on my side why it leads for me to giving up my kids. anyways, you will never know how and what it is. really, unless you are in my shoes. kutob ra ka sulti coz waka nakaagi sa ako naagian. but nevertheless, that is your opinion coming from someone nga wala sa ani na situation. one thing more, just to tell you again that i can not risk my kids life in sufferings, rather that i'll just suffer myself. it's not true that material things and comfort doesn't matter because it does. mao gani mowork ta so that we can give our kids and family better life. that's it, but thanks for your thoughts that is kinda imposing. but i believe in my own...

people really do have different values.... if i were in your shoes, if kabaw ku aku partner datu pero inutil ky irresponsable, antuson naku pagbuhi.... through that sacrifice, makita sa akong mga anak unsay realidad sa kinabuhi.... kanang kaprichu, temporary ra kaau na... tinoud, comfortable imung mga anak karon....but i doubt they will have character.... you entrusted your children to an environment through which your own husband has become irresponsible? ambot lang ha.... the values people learn through adversities is more important TS... who said life is easy? The lives of your children will not always be comfortable....kaila kag mga anak sa datu na na anad sa kaprichu ug wala na anad sa kalisud? nangapobre intawn.... my girlfriend said it best when she related her life.... she said, her mom cannot give them the comfortable life but her legacy is the fighting spirit that they have developed through adversities... you just taught your children, choose money over sacrifice...choose convenience over struggles.... tinoud, they may feel hungry if they will be raised by you, pero kung malampas na ninyu, dili nana cla magutman...they would have built their character through hardships... that is something you fail to see...

[kylot2008]

I think you're doing the right thing as a mother. It's painful to be apart from your kids but there are instances in life that we really have to sacrifice for the good of our children.. God bless

[Hammer_and_Sickle]

basta TS, wala la'y mahayay sa imong decision na gi-pili

[mikoy32]

no your not. you did the right thing. As of now di pa tngale kasabot imung kids sa imung decision, but soon they will understand you. Painful baya sad sa imung part , you sacrifice yourself for them; for them to have a better life.
but you naay man juy pros and cons atong mga decision diba. So watever happens be strong lang jud.

[tenda]

you are doing you think the best for your kids. when they grow up they will realize why you do that.

just a precaution, your MIL might brainwash them against you. be prepared.

[black_vixen]

Ok ra na nga imong ibilin imong anak ddto TS basta maayong traits and values ilang makat-unan. Kung dli gani basin msakitan ka sa mga decision sa imong anak nga dli ikaw mismo ni pitol. Sayang sad!

[Dondon]

Open communication lang gyud, and mas maayo gyud unta ug magkakita mo or QT pirme. Lisod man gud, if in the future, ready na ka mukuha and mubuhi sa kids, and sila dili na ganahan mubiya sa good life. Sakto pud tong brainwash2x, posible gyud kaayo na. Ampo lang ta wala sila'y gisulti na dautan against nimo, sila raba pirme magkuyog.

Ang gibuhat nimo ma'am was not the ideal thing to do, pero ikaw man ang naa diha, ikaw ang kaybaw sa tanan, imo ra gibuhat ang sa imong tan-aw maka ayo sa imong mga anak, that doesn't make you a bad mother man siguro.

Tan-aw pud nako, sa kanang mga edara, pwede naman siguro na nimo storya-an, pasabton nimo sa situation.

[emow]

you really wouldn't say it emow if you are in my shoes. there is a thin borderline between too much difficulties and dying. i just wouldn't like my kids to be experiencing that very sad scenario. i don't want my kids to experience again the time that i have to only eat some bread for the whole day when infact i am pregnant because my ex-husband did not gave me any money. i don't like to put them put in that situation. if my husband is irresponsable it doesn't mean his family are? right? you are only saying things not trying to balance what it could have been on my side why it leads for me to giving up my kids. anyways, you will never know how and what it is. really, unless you are in my shoes. kutob ra ka sulti coz waka nakaagi sa ako naagian. but nevertheless, that is your opinion coming from someone nga wala sa ani na situation. one thing more, just to tell you again that i can not risk my kids life in sufferings, rather that i'll just suffer myself. it's not true that material things and comfort doesn't matter because it does. mao gani mowork ta so that we can give our kids and family better life. that's it, but thanks for your thoughts that is kinda imposing. but i believe in my own...

TS, i am a product of a single mother who started from scratch to raise two children.... i dont know your whole situation, likewise you dont know mine.... we have experienced hunger, shame, humiliation, threat and rejection from people who were supposed to be close to my mother... But instead of giving up, my mom persevered, sacrificed and dedicated her life in raising us... our troubles molded our awareness of the realities of life... My mom could have given us to our dad, who was very well off and very capable of giving us a good life.... Your situation is very familiar to me because we have almost the same situation, pero ikaw lang ang mother and i was the child.... My mom knew how irresponsible my dad was, so even though the inlaws can take care of us, she decided to raise us....who would've known, na bankrupt intawn ang datu nakung amahan... nagkawatak2x ilang pamilya.... if we were raised by them, dili unta mi ayahay karon... im just blessed to have a strong mom... You are so wrong to only think of the conveniences of your children....Character is formed through adversities... im apologizing for being imposing....makarelate lang gyud ku.... Godbless on your family...mas better if maguli mu....hehehe peace!

[iwantmyboyfriend]

Hi TS,

I was raised by my Dad pd kay akong mom pra2x man to mag adik2x ug kabit2x and all.. saons.. hehe
Even though my mom deserved it, my dad never bad-mouthed my mom to me. He didnt brainwash me or anything. I grew up knowing my parents were separated but I didn't have a hatred towards my mom.
Now that I look at it, as a grown person, akong mama naa giud pag kulang nako. I wish nalang ko kutob ani.. although wala ko mag mahay naa kos akong papa.. if only she tried harder to make the relationship work, we might still be a happy family karon. My Dad might still be alive and I might have become a different person..

but still, I don't regret what has become of me today ako lang advice, if kaya na nimo buhion imong anak kuhaa para makasuway kas kalisod sa mama or single parent..

naa adopted diris amoa nag stay na wa ko kasabot sa ilang situation.. single mom iya mama..
pero ari siya gi pa puyo diri on weekdays kay d mu atiman iyang mama niya kay work daw..
human work nya wa ghapon ka support.. hayyy nakuuu.. ambot.. anyway, hope you will be ok TS.
im sure you will find a way..

kung tinuod giud na gustohon nimo makuha imong anak.. shempre makuha man nmo ikaw gd mama..

[LeeLeePot]

it wasn't a bad decision...but you could've fought for them and prove the rich basterds wrong. you can actually provide for them ma'am..it's just that i guess you have so many issues that hinder you on striving to provide for them....a mother will always do anything for their child. i understand your decision about it. but the answer you had for it is a little bit off.