He's my best friend... but then he loves me

[piggybank]

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wow how sweet!

[ulyssa_marie]

Thank you guys for your advises.

I only talk to him like once a week na or something. I dont answer his calls usually and i tell him na busy ko with school or other stuff. Even if it sounds like excuses, it's for his own good. And he has started taking initiative of meetings girls by himself. etc. I even encourage him to go for it or even ask a girl out.

he's gone back to his night life or activities. he's even doing more hobbies than before. But then, he tells me that he gets himself soo soo busy because of me. So then again, i feel at fault again that i have taken away the word fun in the usual activities that he used to do.

Sometimes, id like to shout at him and just say "I didnt ask for you to do all those things! You did it on your own! it's your own fault that you feel so frustrated now."

But doing that, would make me look like the bad guy again..i'm not the type of person to scold anyone, and i don't have what it takes to say such cruel words to him. It's like slapping a sibling on the face.. u feel that terrible guilt after. id be the selfish and inconsiderate person. And honestly, i dont want that kind of impression on myself.

[EightEqualsD]

Just one question....
Did you tell your boyfriend about this guy and how he feels?

If you didn't you are CHEATING... end of story... hehe

[ulyssa_marie]

Just one question....
Did you tell your boyfriend about this guy and how he feels?

If you didn't you are CHEATING... end of story... hehe

How am i cheating? i am not doing anything physical with this guy, nor do i feel romantic feelings towards him. I treat him like every other bestfriend ive had since HS days.

I even put up this thread for advices to keep my friendship with him at bay.

And yes, my bf knows about this story.

[reigel99]

Dili. Please scroll up for my earlier replies. I see him as a she-best friend (even though guy sya).

And u know us girls, we see each other as sisters. So for me, when i look at him, i see a sibling. My feelings for him are exactly the same as the way i look at my brothers or girl best friends.

I can't even imagine the emotion of romantically liking him. It feels ethically and morally wrong jud.

dili, mo-second-the-motion jud ko nila TS nga naa kay feeling sa guyfriend... hmm... kung bestfriend ra imo tan-aw niya, then dapat makabalo ka mobiya niya...

I mean, ang kayo (fire) baya dili magpadayon og siga kung wala nay sugnod...
Naay reason kung ngano nagpabilin sa imo ang guy...
kay nagtuo siya nga naa jud siyay chance...
sa utok sa imo guyfriend ron is, "naa jud koy chance, siya ra ang wala pa kabalo nga naa"...
og ngano nakaingon man siya ana? tungod ra pud nimo... kay di nimo kaya siyang buhian...
this guyfriend of yours knows you have a boyfriend... so why would he insist his feelings... or show some feelings beyond the border of friendship??
Because your letting him...
One thing you could do is say it straight to him...
nga di pde magpadayon inyong friendship kung magpadayon ang iyang beyond friendship feelings...
cause that will make both of you cheating your boyfriend...
likayi siya kung iya nang buhaton... let him forget beyond friendship thingy... or else goodbye friendship...
tan-awa kung magpabilin pa ba siya as your bestfriend... and if he is truly your bestfriend, he would act as a bestfriend...

kaya na nimo siya likayan kung wala man jud kaha kay beyond friendship feelings pud...
well, which is important, your bestfriend, or your boyfriend??
who cares about "ana ra diay na kadali ilabay atong friendship"...
well, kung friends ra jud iya gusto, makamao pud siya sa iyang limit...

waaahhhh taasa,...
mao nang di jud ko makig-suod kaayo sa mga committed... lisod jud na...

[john^^]

kudos to you maam that you remain faithful to your bf..but i think u should keep a distance with ur male bestfriend..it will not do good at all to your bf and to ur male bestfriend..you have a very strong control over to your male bestfriend's agony..please be considerate enough understand what he is going through right now..do the right thing your old enough to know what is right or wrong..

life is pretty simple., we make it complicated.... (tambag ra ni maam)

[THE KID]

OT: TS kaila mo ni Ulysses? relative mo?

[THE KID]

dili ko ganahan ana imong best friend ts....kai mamugos man....magpa konsenxia pa....og friend jud ka niya...mo sabot lang unta siya nga naa pakai boy friend.....

[hulagway]

Sometimes, id like to shout at him and just say "I didnt ask for you to do all those things! You did it on your own! it's your own fault that you feel so frustrated now."

mas maayo pa imo siya sultian ani.ayaw lang pud shout..mao rani ang way nga maka mata siya sa iyang dango....good for your bf nga mosabot ra pud..kay usually mao ni hinungdan sa away...so talk lang sa imo best friend nga dili na mausba ang imong feelings para niya..ug wala pud nimo siya pugsa sa iyang mga gipangbuhat para nimo...

[monokuro]

nah demanding na imo bestfriend.. whatever it is that you do together as friends just tone it down. i think your bestfriend subconsciously is already considering himself as your bf. and you never know he might reach the breaking point and will do things that will embarrass you both. if possible don't pour it all on your bestfriend kanang relationship issues with your bf para gamay ra inyong talk time. keep the friendship but don't get too close to a guy who's already in love with you