Divorce, Legal Separation, Annulment: What is your stand?

[thinkrich]

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to a certain extent, i agree man na children shouldnt be exposed to a highly stressed environment in the family. however, if divorce/legal separation/annulment will become a daily part of our culture, you can just imagine the number of failed marriages and the number of broken families with kids growing up with a single parent lang. divorce and annulment will now become an easy way out for youngsters rushing to marry, not fully understanding the commitment and the responsibilities involved in marriage and to family. as hera 82 above pointed out from her source, "divorce rates are soaring all over the world", you can just imagine the impact this is creating to the youth of today and to the next generation of kids growing up in single-parent homes..just as much impact as "unwanted" pregnancies will have. of course, we may never be able to have an accurate data as to its negative impact, but im definitely sure it has.

i believe that the key really is to CHOOSE WISELY your partner FOR LIFE..for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish till death do us part!!

[Streetcar]

i believe that the key really is to CHOOSE WISELY your partner FOR LIFE..for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish till death do us part!!

Thinkrich, these lines have become so bookish and structured na when reality is, it no longer applies. What if diay the spouse batters the wife? are you still going to stay in the marriage until someone dies? Also there are situations you cannot CHOOSE WISELY. Why? what if you married due to an unavoidable circumstance? then you have no choice but to marry and hope for better things to come and learn to love the person you're with. There's a lot of people in this situation too.

[Spec-V]

Dont ever "Idealize" others. For they might not live up to your expectations.

.....not a sermon, just a thought.

[thinkrich]

@streetcar

bookish? choosing wisely no longer applies? since when? forced to marry due to unavoidable circumstances? like what..unexpected pregnancy? then later on get a divorce? see..there is a pattern emerging. since as u said "choosing wisely" is bookish and no lonewr applies, what is happening is one is making a mistake one after the other. in the case of unexpected pregnancy (im only using this as an example coz this is the most rampant, i believe) one has already made a mistake by engaging in pre marital *** and ends up having a baby. by marrying the father (who she doesnt really love or they arent really meant to be), only to end up divorcing is adding a mistake after mistake. dont you see? from your example of marriage due to unavoidable circumstance, you will only end up making another mistake.

Of course, i dont condone wife battery. i always respect women! but then again, the best advice there is, though it may seem bookish to you, is to choose, and more importantly, discern your partner for life, well!

@spec-v
does having good moral values idealistic? i am not man idealizing others. i am merely sharing my thoughts on this critical issue..critical because so many of our youths today are suffering from failed marraiges. and by condoning divorce, legal separation..it now even becomes easier for couples to rush into marriage knowing that should it not work, they always have an easy way out.


we are so porud to claim that we are the only christian nation in this part of the world..yet we easily tend to forget the teachings of our Lord. if we, as catholics, all truly believe that the bible is the source of all truth, then look o further than the gospel last sunday, october 8, 2006. In Mark 10:9 it says "No human being must separate, then, what God has joined together."

[Streetcar]

Thinkrich, thanks for the input your comment is ideally based and not realistically as what we see happening today but if people can live through those ideals then the better and we wont find a high percentage of divorces and legal separations anywhere. The problem is how do you in fact choose wisely? Even the wisest person changes with time and love outgrows, boredom sets in, relationships suffer. Tell me who doesnt know the lines of for richer for poorer even kids memorize those lines. It is no longer sounding like powerful words. Its more like blah, blah, blah

[bongjo]

we've got one life to live,
our destiny is our choice,
try not to waste time,
rather save the best out of it!

[evs]

it would have been nice if life is a fairy tale and we all live happily ever after but we do not live in a perfect world, no matter how people chose their partners wisely, there is no way of telling how a marriage is gonna be. you'll never know a person until you have live with them. as for morals, it varries, you can't force yours to others for each have its own.

it's so funny how some people use the bible to justify their so called concern and yet deny being idealistic.

P.S. for those in favor of divorce, try to take a long hard look at the family values in the western countries and see if these are the same values we want for our Filipino families. May God abundantly bless each marriage!!!

have you been to the western world to see and find out yourself their family values? or you just see it on tv and read it somewhere. please don't be quick to judge unless you have seen it with your own eyes..

[Streetcar]

to comment fairly on that quote living in America is different compared to living in Europe. There is a big difference. Americans have traditional and conservative family values too. The heart of America is conservatism. Actually, what i see is much more worse case scenarios in the Philippines. Morality here isn't that low at all. Now, if you compare that to European countries, its way different over there. Take for example in Holland, there is a red light district. Prostitution is a career and its legal. People there dont care if you walk naked in the streets. In fact, people make love in the parks publicly and take drugs publicly. To them that is not illegal. In the States that is illegal. Euthanasia is also being practiced there. Not in America. Americans have a very traditional family-oriented values too.

[kula]

mmm...no comment..

[T1CODE]

uhmmmm. dili ko gusto naa divorced dire
gipanumpaan na gud na ninyo, sayang kaayo ang gasto sa kasal, engrande pa ra ba.
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