Unreasonable MEN. How to deal???!

[PebblesandKisses]

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So, I feel sorry for a patient Ive been dealing wit for quite some time now regarding being physically battered by her boyfriend. Live in sila for 8 years and he started hitting her mga 1 year pa cla. Not to be biased but kung unsa ka buotan ang babaye, in-ana sad ka unreasonable ang laki. Example- malate lang ug uli ug 10 mins, or dli lang katubag sa tawag kausa- bun.og dayon. So the girl had an alopecia areata (temporary bald patches sa head) and has gone worst thru the years. Usually this condition for female is largely influenced by chronic stress or depression. From 2, now she has 5 patches na and if dli nya tarongon ug fix iya hair, maclaro jud nga naay circle smooth patches iya scalp. And, pwede jud cya matotally opaw like smooth opaw if it will progress.

Now just today, the guy decided to not continue her hair treatment anymore coz basin daw himoon nga alibi sa girl para makalakaw. If it worsens, he'll shave her head nalang daw. I was like-- "are you figging sick??"

So the girl, as much as she wants to disagree, ofcourse i understand she doesnt want to fight with him infront of me. This girl btw is pretty and funny. Shes petite and is working as an accountant. Earns better than her partner and is way pretty for him as well. I just dont understand why does she have to stick with him. I mean in a snap i can introduce him with my friends if laki iya problema nay daghan kuyog pami magsearch.
And everytime i attempt to ask her why dili nya buwagan, muana ra cya "ana jud ng gugma" nya mu.katawa2 ra. Maspeechless gud kog kalit. Tsk tsk (pagkaloslos!)

As per the girl never man daw cya nagkathirdparty sa ilang relationship. The guy though, had slept wit two girls but wala nadaw to, dugay na.

I just feel bad ngano naay mga in.ana nga mga lalaki who claim they love their partners but are very salbahes naman. And the girl, i think she's too weak to leave the guy. I dont know. Dli ko katugkad ngano jud oi! Coz as for me, if siguro madapatan ko ug laki, buwag dayon oy way daghang storya. Naunsa. Basin ipa sniper pa cyas akong papa. Bitaw kidding aside, that only goes to show he doesnt respect me. Mag unsa nalang amo relasyon ug way respeto. Among future anak basin bun.ogon pd.
Haaay.

Nagpahungaw rakos akong gibati so just feel free guys to drop an opinion regarding their relationship, the girl and the guy. I'd like to hear from u all esp sa makarelate.

Its good to be back here btw.

[C'thulhu]

It takes two to tango TS, the girl "enabled" the guy's behavior... Somebody there needs to see that...

[volatile8]

I don't know what to say, but I feel very sorry for the girl. I hope malamdagan na iyang huna2x before pa sya mapatay anang lakiha nga murag boang na tingale sa akong pag sabot sa story then ang girl murag na takdan na, na boang na pud. Scary!

[2nderemperror]

ang pangutana, asa ang mga igsuon sa girl or parents.. tsk tsk.
kana ing-ana nga girl, wa pa na cya kaamgo unsa cya kabuta jud.
weak na cya nga ma biyaan ang guy kay cguro wala poy laing taw
nga naa diha para niya nga mura bag ang guy nlng jud ang
everything para niya.. wla cguro cyay close friends or kuwangan
cguro cyag pagtagad sa iyang parents/mga igsuon maong
ing-ana cya modala ug tratar sa laki.
kana pud ing-ana nga guy, nakasuyop cguro na.
dapat ana niya, adto sa mental ihan-ok!

[geo25]

I wouldn't call a girl in an abusive relationship weak. She endured/is enduring the punches and the threats for whatever reason she has.

Go leave. Why would you let him do that? Easy for us to say. It isn't that simple. A normal(?) relationship alone is complex—it's difficult enough to leave—an abusive one?

Your patient's story is not for you tell.

[Fern]

ka looy sa girl oie.

she may be a masochist.... its pretty common for girls nowadays nga violence and "gratification" sparks their emotional trigger that most likely make want it more.... same sa s#x .. if ang babae maka tilaw sa right sized male (HA-UM kaayu) mura sila ug ma spark ilang emotional trigger.

she might be in a masochistic tantra... nga ok ra sa iyaha nga "50 shades of gray" basta lang loyal lang ang lake sa iyaha

@TS ---> wala na ta mabuhat ana... until that time its up for the girl to realize for herself "nga dili na, Sobra na"

sakto ang opinion si sir Geo... her story is not for you to tell.


in police work.... we do not welcome people nga mu sumbung about a person ki kulata or any domestic violence.. we want the legally aged person him/herself nga mu report sa amu except if minor and person(bata).

especially domestic violence... we let the couple fix their issues themselves until any of them will press charges.

[PebblesandKisses]

Go leave. Why would you let him do that? Easy for us to say. It isn't that simple. A normal(?) relationship alone is complex—it's difficult enough to leave—an abusive one?

I do not understand this part of ur statement.

Your patient's story is not for you tell.

I dont get your point still. You mean its not my story to tell, or its not mine to judge?
Its not my story yes, unless i indicated her name or anything that identifies her- that i'd see a problem.
Judging and stating it in my POV (as a girl and as her trichologist) are 2 different things. Infact i welcome all you guys' opinions about it.

[care_bear]

Same here TS. I can't understand women who think that way too. Like why do they have to endure that kind of violence? Kung love lang? Pero mamatay mnpud ang taw ana klaseha sa gugma oie. Too much love will kill you. Kung imo lang jud huna2on oh.. gipadaku kag tarung, dili pa palamukan sa imong ginikanan, pinalitan kag mga pagkaon pra mudaku kang healthy ug happy daun just some crazy guy just hit u!? WTH! I knw a person similar ani. Just that musukol lng ang girl pero sa strength pildi jud ang girl oie. I also asked the same ques. as yours. WHY? She told me, since maldita dw sya dn naa nilabaw niya mao na disiplina sya. Ako twn *speechless*. Cguro kita nnyo nga wla sa situation dili ka judge right away but just the violence alone ky No No na. Makayabag mn ingn anion ta oie tinuok kinabuhi nato.

Pero isa lng jud way ani sis. Ang girl rajud pa desisyona kng gnhan sya matay ug sayu. Cguro patient nimo sya pero kng sya dili mutabang iya self so be it. Like bsag isa ka brgy. pa mo-tabang niya bsta ngpaka buta pa sya wla jud ta ma-help niya.

[chocofudge]

Naa pud cguroy possibility TS, na gi threaten sya nah if mobuwag sya patyon sya
or iyang family, mao guro na d sya kahawa anang taohana, bsn nka drugs na yang
partner bah because his way of thinking is not normal anymore.

[Echelnalf]

Naa ko kaiLa nga babae nga simiLar og situation. I don't know kung battered ba siya, but I know the guy does a lot of disrespectful things to her. Reason nga diLi ka buwag, "Lawasnong panghinangLan" joke. She's afraid to lose some provision.