You become your parents

[rodzilla]

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I read recently in reader's digest that no matter how much you say you hate your parents, you end up being like them because secretly you admire them.
since it's mother's day, i would like to ask you guys 2 questions:
1) what is the one trait in your mom that you openly really admire most and hope you also have in you? and
2) what is the one trait of your mom you openly detest, hope you will not become but KNOW you have the tendency to have it too when you become a mom?

the one thing i really admire in my mom is that she is really ma abilidad. as in she wants something or needs something, she does not expect anybody to hand it to her. she gives it her best effort to get it.
hmm, what i don't like about her is she tends to become manipulative. pa luoy-luoy effect. i KNOW ma ingon ana sad gyud ko. but really, i just love my mom to death!

[Zahara]

Yes...we detest some of our parent's attitudes but we do end up like them.

What i love about my mom is her being generous and great with money.

What i don't like about her though is her tendency to nag and smother us with affection.

[d_lightt]

is that really a fact?? do we end up EXACTLY like them including their traits we just absolutely hate? my parents have admirable traits, but their are some that are the root of my current issues with them and with the whole idea of 'family' in general.

is there no way out?

[diem]

^^The way how one is brought up by their parents is the closest thing to pratical manual to parenting there is. Of course there are books in parenting that people could study on and use but sooner or later, the unpredictable reality of parenting is so overwhelming that a lot of things are not covered in the book.

Like a relative o' mine said, "Parenting is not a methodology. It's Life: trials, errors and most importantly, corrections of those errors."

What I think however is the one is raised well by one's parents, the more that one would want to emulate his/her parents or maybe perhaps be even better.

Back on topic:

1) What is the one trait in your mom that you openly really admire most and hope you also have in you?

That she's a totally devoted, hands-on mother, willing to go on the line for her children. If I aim to be a parent, I would like to be like her-- placing my children's needs before my own, being there for them 24-7 as a father.

2) What is the one trait of your mom you openly detest, hope you will not become but KNOW you have the tendency to have it too when you become a mom?

That she tends to over-worry and over-protective. I think I could become like that as a parent.

[carmie]

I do believe that I end up like them whether I like it or not.

Father's day man karon hehehehe should I tell about my father? or mom?

[ej___]

I agree on this about 80%.

Nakita man gud nako akoang papa sa ako self karon the way mo disiplina sa akoang bata.

[d`monyita]

There is nothing in my mom that I admire. Nothing that can easily come to mind anyways.

Openly detest? Sus marami. wag na lang.



My dad.... he is organized. I like that.

What I dont like? hmmm....his being organized hahahahaha

[cuttie_angel]

pohon!!!

[princess_boom]

1) What is the one trait in your mom that you openly really admire most and hope you also have in you?

Her extreme ability of looking for ways to earn money just to have us educated in decent schools and somehow provide us of want we need and want.


2) What is the one trait of your mom you openly detest, hope you will not become but KNOW you have the tendency to have it too when you become a mom?

Her being narrow-minded at times. Refusing to understand my side.--- This though has changed quite a bit when I got married coz we(my mom and i) eventually became the best of friends.

[sexyjelly]

i agree on this.. kay, now that i have a baby nah sometimes makita nako ang style sa akong mama.. hehehe... i love it.. she's the best mom and i know kung unsa ako na learnan from my mom.. mao pud nah sa akong baby pohon ma act.. hehehe..........