gracie7

You fall in love with them as a person for their personality that you just haven't considered their appearance, how they look or act. -G

Yes, it is possible. Just as possible as falling in love with anyone else that you met anywhere else. Love is time-consuming, exhausting, dangerous, often expensive, and usually counter-productive.

Some say "love is blind", but how many times have you pursued someone only because you thought they were beautiful or handsome? You didn't know anything else about them, so you imagined it. You fell in love with your idea of them before you even knew who they were.

Maybe you spent some time together, made some small talk, saw a flick or two, jumped into bed with them, and then all of a sudden you decided you know them and you love them. Ha! What did you really know? Then you got all upset when they didn't turn out the way you imagined them to be, so you fled, called them names, sobbed, drank, swore to never let it happen again, picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and eventually moved on to some other ridiculous pursuit. I would imagine this formula works the same way whether you met that person online or in 'real life'. When you fall in love you are living in a fantasy, that is all. It's fun, isn't it?

The nice thing about chatting with them online is you have a chance to express your thoughts openly and develop a rapport (as opposed being clammed up and nervous from being in their presence, which often happens when there is a strong level of attraction there). It is easier to have meaningful communication through writing than by physically interacting. Not being able to see each other enables you to focus on thoughts, feelings, core values and important conversations. On the phone or online, you don’t have to pretend to be interested in something and can focus on stories from your past that create a bond.

And if you decide to "fall in love" with them based on that, well at least you know it's not just for the *** (unless all you chatted about was the s3x.) IMHO, friendship is more sustainable than lust. If you have won each other over on an intellectual level, that's an excellent start.

We are all some sort of unsolved mystery. Even after all the pink smoke clears and our flaws become so much more apparent, you still can't possibly know all there is to know. We have secrets, skeletons in our closets yet to come out, and we can change and do the unexpected at any given moment. This change may even come as a result of our relationship with you. You'll never really know what you're going to get (or lose), regardless of the medium used to find us.